My healing journey: Forgiveness

Teaching on Healing

How do we begin to heal? At times our mind is not with our body such as when we drive our car to work our mind may not be thinking about driving at all, but we still reach our destination. This is known as store consciousness and at times anger, hurt,sorrow, joy etc rest in our store consciousness in the form of a seed “(bija)” (Thich Nhat Hanh, 2010). At times, we feel the tears streaming down our face. Some of us dont even know how to release the hurt, anger, frustration etc. We tend to bottle it up inside of us which boils up for many years and as we continue our lives we wonder how did I ever get here? What is really going on? We blame others for the way how we feel, but the truth is we need to face our own emotions and release it. When someone get us angry, “the seed of anger will manifest in the mind of consciousness as a mental formation of anger” (Thich Nhat Hanh, p. 10). We become depress at times when we tell ourselves things that are burden to us and our thoughts ruminate with feelings of “I am not good enough”, ” I am weak”, ” I do so much for others” etc. When the seed of angry comes up we need to recognize and take care. Be gentle with ourselves and embrace our emotions. We must also become aware of our breathing “so that we can continue to generate the energy of mindfulness, and the seed of mindfulness in us will become strong”(Thich Nhat Hanh, p. 11).

The function of Mindfulness

We must recognize the function of mindfulness and not fight it. As we process how we are feeling, we need to aware of the inner child that have been wounded for years. According to Thich Nhat Hanh , “All we need to do is to be aware of the child within us. When we recognize the wounded child for the first time, all we need to do is to be aware of him or her and say hello” (p.14). Once we recognize the inner child, we must embrace him or her and instead of fighting our emotions, we must take good care of ourselves. The difficult emotions will still be there, but we will not suffer any more. As we begin to embrace the inner child within us, we then “soothe our  difficult emotions” (p.15). This reminds me of times when we feel the gentle embrace of our parents and they gently hold our hands and reassure us that everything will be alright. When we begin to embrace these emotions, the truth shall be revealed. We will recognize where our suffering comes from and as we begin to see “the root of things, our suffering will lessen”(p.15).

If we want to reconcile with our family and friends, we must take care of ourselves first and “if we are not capable of listening to ourselves”, how can we possible listen to others? (Thich Nhat Hanh, p.36) We must know how to recognize our own suffering so that we can bring forth peace and understanding into our relationships.

Recognizing and Calming painful feeling

The best way to heal is to become present with ourselves and let our body, mind and spirit heal itself. As we begin to notice our breath, we become relaxed, but we dont fight the painful feeling because this is a part of us. Give yourselves permission to feel the pain which reminds me of the pain that I felt when I saw my son getting treatment for the very first time. I felt a knot in my stomach and my womb was in disarray. No mother wants to see their child getting chemo treatment.  I felt the tears surface and I allow myself to cry. Then I immediately began to notice my in and out breath and  I called on the name of Jesus! I had to release and let go so that my son could be healed! We must nourish our hearts and know that we will experience ups and downs in life. If we do not practice this in our daily life this will die out so recognize your pain and let it go!

We must acknowledge our suffering and do the following:

“Breathing in, I know that the feeling of suffering, despair, unhappiness, fear is in me.

Breathing out, I embrace the feeling of suffering in me.” (Thich Nhat Hanh, p. 52).

Nourishment

At times we use food and entertainment to run away from our sufferings and we feel so lonely, sad, empty, frustrated or afraid that we try to fill up that feeling with a movie or food. We suppress our pain and use the movie or food to replace the way how we feel. The more we feed our body and mind with these things the more it gets worse. We must not feed the suffering and give ourselves the chance to transform. Understanding and compassion will emerge to heal us and help us to heal others around us as well.  We must accept life as it is and know that we are not alone. . Dealing with suffering is not easy, but call on his name Jesus and he will guide you through this. Jesus forgave our sins so why are we having a hard time forgiving others? Ponder on this for a bit and know that we need to transform our suffering by simply recognizing it and letting it go.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

References:

Thich Nhat Hanh, (2010). Reconciliation healing the inner child.Parallax  Press