How to deal with loneliness

There are several times that I have heard over and over again that someone is lonely and they feel isolated from the world. At times, some feel out of contact with people due to distrust in the past. It must be emphasize that loneliness is different than just being alone because a person will have a time when they chose to be alone vs the feelings of being alone. Have you recognize the way how you feel when you chose to be alone? You may need to recharge yourself and don’t really want to be around others or you may be sad because you don’t have anyone to talk to.

There are several ways of changing the feelings of loneliness such as we must first accept that we are lonely which can be difficult but its reality.  We can express the way how we feel by writing a journal, painting etc.  The goal is to express your feeling which will help you to find out the real cause of being lonely. It may be that you are sad, angry and frustrated which we can explore by investigating where are these feelings coming from?  As we begin to see the connections we will be ready to make a change. We must also become more active by calling the person who we are missing as well as writing a letter.  If we do not have someone to talk to  we could talk to a counselor. If we are lonely because we missed someone who have died then we must recognize the feelings of grief and begin to remember the memories with them. It is also important to get involved in activities such as walking to prevent suicide prevention, looking for local events in the area that include painting and other activities. So get out and get active in the community. Enjoy life to the fullest and smile more because you never know when it may help someone.


Students under pressure

My oldest has recently left for college and I wanted to assure him and others that we must manage our stress. At times we will feel the pressure of completing assignments or just trying to make the deadline of an upcoming projects. But it is important to manage our time. I remember feeling the shortness of breath which is the beginning of a panic attack and I knew I had to get things under control.  I notice my breathing and began to meditate. Help is there for all college students who are feeling the pressure of assignments etc so reach out to your college  counseling center for help. Unfortunately, several college counseling centers have a waiting list. According to the Center for Collegiate Mental Health (CCMH) reported that ” nearly 8 percent increase in the number of students seeking  mental health services” (Novotney, 2014, APA).

The University of Florida Counseling and Wellness Center launched its ” Therapist Assisted Online (TAO) program which delivers helps to students suffering from anxiety disorders. This consist of a several modules our a period of seven weeks that “teach students to observe their anxiety, live one day at a time and face their fears” ( Novotney, 2014, APA).  Students talk to the counselors for 10-12 min via video conference and complete homework through an app. They are also sent reminders via text messaging.

Education awareness

More counseling centers are reaching out to students and faculty via staff training and outreach programs that includes suicide, sexual violence and drug prevention programs.  For instance, at Aurora University has delivered presentations to the faculty on ways to detect distress among students and  ways to intervene while referring them for mental health services.  According to the Journal of Mental Health Disease, at least 78%  of the students with mental health issues receive help from their loved ones, friends and other non professional support.  It is important that colleges  work with other organizations that support mental health issues and help to remove the stigma.  For instance, the Active Minds is an organizations that dedicated to send 1,100 donated “silent packing via backpacks” which represents the number of students  who die by suicide every year. Finally, it is important that everyone from faculty, students realize that they need to play a role in mental health.





Novotney, A. (2014). Students under pressure. College and university counseling centers are examining  how best to serve the growing numbers of students seeking their services. American Psychological Association. Vol 45. No.8.

Prayer challenge for healing

Gods healing words:

In Proverbs 4:20-22 says, ” My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings.  Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.

Exodus 15:26 says, ” And said, If tho wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the Lord they god,m and wilt do that which is right in his sight, and wilt give ear to his commandments, and keep all his statutes, I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have brought upon the Egyptians; for I am the Lord that  healeth thee.

Some verses for strength:

There are times in our lives that we are face with uncertainty and we need to pray for strength to get us through the day.  This past week has been hectic because once again we seek to understand what is happening for those afflicted with cancer.  My heart goes out to a young man who is fighting for his life right now. My heart goes out to his family and I pray that my compassion flows from me. I pray that others see the light of God shining through me as I continue to walk in confidence, grace and strength during these times. We are called upon to do several things in life and when you answer that call we must be prepared for the challenges ahead. We must continue to pray without ceasing because our help comes from him who is our healer, protector, guider and comforter.

As we continue to pray for strength and guidance Isaiah 40:31 NLT says, ” But those who trust the Lord will find new strength, They will soar high on wings like eagles, They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.”

Throughout the years, the lord has taught me to pray and my faith has grown from a small peas to a tree which takes some time to grow. Just know that I had to water that tree so that it can stay alive. I may have neglected it at times, but I am reminded that I must provide tap into the source through reading, mediation and listening to God. So remember that the walk with God will be a challenge daily, but rise up and do God’s work.


Philippians 4:13 says, I can do all things through Christ that strengths me…says the Lord

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”


Continue to pray for everyone…..



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